Posted by Todd on Dec 26, 2009 in Advice
, Job Search
I previously wrote a post about the impact of encouragement on you and your career and I got some feedback asking for a more in depth look at the phenomenon of discouragement and encouragement and how it plays into your career.
I want you to stop whatever you are doing and think about five things you believe about yourself.
- Do you believe you are capable of earning a million dollar salary?
- Do you believe that you are capable of getting a promotion?
- Do you believe that you are on the verge of getting fired?
- Do you ALWAYS believe that you are on the verge of getting fired?
Okay, now I want you to think back to the origin of such beliefs. It is my guess that these sorts of self-perceptions have everything to do with the company you keep.
Have you ever watched an awards show like The Grammys or The Oscars? More often than not, you will hear the recipients of such awards doll out a long list of thank you’s. And they are also, quite frequently, very long lists. This is an interesting bit of proof that the most successful of individuals do not do it all on their own. They do it with the encouragement and, more importantly, the belief of others that they can achieve such amazing feats.
Rarely, if ever, do you see someone go up on a stage after receiving an award saying they’d done it all on their own. In fact, I have never witnessed this.
My point is, you should take a step back and analyze your life in this way. Divide your friends and family into categories of those who encourage and those who do not encourage. Does your mother tell you that you are very intelligent. Does she tell you that she “knows” you can acheive anything you want in life? Then put her into the pile of those who encourage.
Conversely, do you have a father (or mother, even) who is always telling you that you cannot achieve this or that. Do they tell you that you need to revise your thinking to be more realistic? Do they say that you’re dreaming too big? Then put them into the other pile!
Once you’ve got your lists together, you have some serious soul searching to do. I do not believe that you should, or that it is realistic to completely excise these negative people out of your life; however, you do need to learn how to more or less ingore those people.
Positive encouragement is one of the most important tools you can possess in your quest for career. The affects it can have on your mood will increase your aptitude at work. They will even make those sleepy mornings easier by increasing your motivation for going to work. If you know that when you get to work, you’re going to achieve something great, then I have no doubt you’re going to be thrilled to get there.
On the other hand, if people are telling you that what you think you can achieve is unrealistic or that it’s not possible, then how do you think that will affect you at work? It will invariably diminish your ability to work to your full potential, and quite possibly leave you with a sense of depression and hopelessness.
Listen to me: You need to ignore those naysayers because we live in a world where anything is possible. And in your career the sky is the limit. That is, and always will be the truth.
When your outlook is positive, good things will happen. They may take time, but from the very moment you believe, you will start planting the seed of greatness. Your continued encouragement will act as the sunshine that lets them grow into beautiful flowers!
Posted by PRGUY222 on Feb 10, 2009 in Employment
New details have emerged relating to the altercation between singers Chris Brown and Rihanna. The altercation ended with Chris Brown being booked on a felony criminal threat charge. He posted $50, 000 bail and was released the same day he was booked.
A source close to the couple told People that, “Chris knocked her around,” and she ended up with a “black eye, blood, bruises. She had to be treated by a doctor.” A police source confirmed the statement. Rihanna suffered a black eye as well as “a swollen split lip and two red and purple contusions on either side of her forehead.”
She is apparently cooperating with detectives on the matter and the case is expected to be handed over to the district attorney’s office in the next day or so. Once there, Brown is likely to be charged with additional crimes. The actual charges eventually filed may change depending on Rihanna’s willingness to forgive Brown. “Prosecutors back off somewhat when they see a couple trying to work out their own issues,” says Steve Sitkoff, an L.A. defense attorney.
The incident has cost Brown the opportunity to participate in the NBA All-Star Game events this coming weekend. News of the alleged assault stunned fans and friends alike. Brown, has a reputation as a “good kid,” so for many the news was shocking. The abuse allegations will likely have a long-term negative impact on his career. In addition to his NBA All-Star Game cancellation, he has been suspended as the Doublemint spokesperson.
Brown’s behavior has hurt his career. Instead of promoting himself and his career, he has become a hindrance to it. You need to make sure that the actions you take do not hinder you. You need to do positive things that serve to advance you and your career.
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Posted by PRGUY222 on Nov 14, 2008 in Uncategorized
Whether you work in a high-stress environment , have a grueling commute, or are searching for a new job, most of us probably have a tough time breaking out of our after-hours and weekend routines. Sometimes just the thought of tagging along to Happy Hour with the gang or showing up at the junior executives birthday party on that Saturday you really wanted to spend just re-thinking your personal finance goals makes you want to call it quits as soon as you shut down your computer for the weekend.
And, along the personal finances chain. . .can we talk about how expensive it is to go out? ESPECIALLY if you’re in a big city. Hello? My Roth IRA needs care and feeding, thanks. Going out doesn’t always have to mean spending tons of money or going only to the most exclusive places.
Going out with co-workers, participating in social events, putting yourself out there–whatever you may call it helps you enjoy your job more the closer you become with your after-hours buddies. Just like the old adage that most major deals are made on the golf courses or the smoky back room. . most truly funny inside jokes and work friendships are not formed during budget meetings.
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Now this blog post is done, I think I’ll head home for a nice date with TiVo. What’s that you say? I can hear you chanting that same phrase Mom used to tell me when I tried to bow out of a party game.
Don’t be a fuddy duddy. Ok I hear you. So I’ll repeat it back. I promise not to be a fuddy duddy, but only if you promise, too.
Posted by PRGUY222 on Oct 31, 2008 in Careers
, Job Search
Those of you heading to Halloween shindigs or who had enough chutzpah to wear your costumes to the office might have costumes on the brain today (that is, if you invested any time or creative effort into your outfit. I have yet to see what kind of costume my random closet raid will yield). SAG cards or not, most of us like wearing costumes because they allow us feel like we are someone else for a little while.
A former professor shared a story during class once: as her father was leaving for work one morning in a dapper, corporate-looking suit, the little girl next door saw him and shouted “I like your costume!”
The little girl unknowingly made a spot-on observation about what it means to get up, get dressed and go to work every day. In her eyes, her neighbor looked like he was playing a part, like he was trying to be someone else (or going to a Halloween party dressed as a character from ‘Mad Men’).
Without spinning off on those ‘all fashion is a costume’ and ‘we are always playing a part’ tangents, it’s safe to say that a lot of people like us in the workforce have our ‘work selves’ and who we are outside of work. If the gap between the two is wider than that ginormous tv you’ve had your eye on, you might consider whether or not you are in the right career (Journalism Jobs, Database Administrator Jobs, Operations Jobs) .
Of course we may have a work persona–professionalism and restraint aren’t bad— but if you feel like you have to be a completely different person while you’re at work, are you being true to yourself? You still may have to dress up and play a role to an extent, but your job should be a (metaphorical) cosplay that works for YOU. So when people see your liederhosen and unicorn mask ensemble and you get that ever-popular question, “What exactly ARE you supposed to be?” You’ll be able to tell them.
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